Self-love isn’t just about bubble baths and self-care Sundays .. it is found in the small, everyday choices you make.
It’s a daily commitment to treating yourself with the same care, respect and kindness you’d give to someone you deeply love.
It’s in how you wake up, how you nourish your body and mind, how you build a life that feels fulfilling from the inside out.
When we are truly ready to look after ourselves the way someone who loves us would, we naturally become the best version of ourselves.
Q: Is it easy to incorporate what is mentioned in this piece of writing?
A: No. Initially it will feel like trying to use your non-dominant hand to brush your teeth; you will want to return to what feels easy and familiar.

This blog is the answer to one of the most common questions I get asked on a daily basis,'What does self-love look like in real life?'
Here’s what self-love looks like in action according to me :
1. Choosing How You Start Your Day
Each morning, you have two choices:
• Wake up and immediately start scrolling through your phone, flooding your mind with distractions and comparisons.
• Or, take a few mindful moments to visualise your day, stretch, move your body, make your bed, and nourish yourself with a healthy breakfast.
The first hour of your day sets the tone. Self-love means prioritising what truly serves you rather than what drains you.
2. Nourishing Your Body with Care
Your body is your lifelong home, and how you care for it reflects your self-love. Each day, you can choose to:
Cook yourself fresh, nutritious meals, enjoying the process of fueling your body well.
Drink enough water, get quality sleep and move your body (not for punishment, but) for joy and vitality.
Rest when needed, knowing that balance is key.
Or you can fall into habits that leave you feeling depleted—skipping meals, eating mindlessly, or ignoring your body’s need for movement and care.
Self-love means treating your body with the respect it deserves.
3. Strengthening Your Mind and Emotions
Your mind and emotions need as much care as your body. You can choose to:
Take breaks from overthinking by practicing meditation/mindfulness or simply talk to me.
Allow yourself to feel emotions fully instead of suppressing them.
Speak to yourself with kindness rather than self-criticism.
Choose peace over unnecessary conflict, even with yourself.
Self-love is about creating a supportive inner dialogue and honouring your emotional well-being.
4. Feeding Your Mind with Growth Vs Distraction
Every day, you have the choice to:
Spend time reading, learning a new skill, or engaging in deep conversations that expand your knowledge.
Mindlessly consume social media, binge-watch shows or engage in gossip that drains your energy.
Just as you nourish your body, self-love means being mindful of what you allow into your mind.
5. Engaging in What Brings You Joy
Self-love means making time for what lights you up. This could be:
Engaging in hobbies - not for productivity, but for sheer enjoyment.
Creating for the sake of creation, whether it’s painting, writing ,cooking etc
Choosing joy is an act of self-love and it is something you deserve to prioritise.
6. Cultivating Healthy Relationships
Your self-worth is reflected in the relationships you choose to nurture. Self-love means:
Attracting and creating friendships/business partnerships that uplift you.
Setting boundaries with people who drain your energy.
Walking away from connections that don’t align with your values.
7. How You Spend Your Time
Each moment of your day, you have a choice to either
Focus on tasks that will help you succeed and bring you closer to your goals.
OR
Operate on autopilot, procrastinate and then feel frustrated at the end of the day.
Self-love is about taking responsibility for your time and directing it toward what truly matters.
8. The Little Choices That Shape Your Well-Being
Even in the simplest moments, self-love is present. Every time you:
Crave something sugary, you can make a conscious choice for a healthier alternative that supports your health.
Feel overwhelmed, you can take a deep breath and step away instead of pushing yourself to exhaustion.
Need to move, you can stretch and walk instead of sitting for hours on end.
Self-love is in the little things - because little things add up to big transformations.
At every stage, with every choice, you have the opportunity to choose self-compassion.
If you’re just starting, begin small:
Wake up and sleep at consistent times.
Make your bed every morning.
Keep your space clean and organised - because that constitutes your external microbiome which is directly linked to your emotional health.
Keep the promises you make to yourself.
Prioritise real-life connections over virtual ones.
Give your brain healthy stimulation - read, learn, explore.
When you practice self-love daily whenever you can, it soon becomes second nature.
Over time, choosing what’s best for you isn’t a struggle .. it simply becomes who you are.
Overcoming Real-World Challenges in Your Self-Love Journey
It’s easy to read about self-love and think, “That sounds great, but I struggle with real issues that make it difficult to apply.”
And that is completely valid.
Self-love isn’t about being perfect .. it is about making small, intentional choices even when it feels difficult.
Here’s how to navigate some common roadblocks:
“But I don’t know how to cook.”
Self-love isn’t about being a gourmet chef .. it’s about nourishing yourself in the best way you can. Start small. Learn just one simple, healthy meal. Make it fun, not a chore. Even swapping one processed meal for a homemade one is a win.

“I get distracted easily.”
Your focus is like a muscle .. the more you train it, the stronger it gets. Start by setting tiny goals. Can you focus for just 10 minutes? Use a timer, put your phone on silent, and reward yourself after. Progress is more important than perfection.

“I get stuck in freeze mode and cannot do anything useful.”
When stuck, start ridiculously small. Instead of cleaning your whole space, fold one piece of clothing. Instead of exercising, stretch for 30 seconds. Action, no matter how tiny, creates momentum. And momentum is what breaks the freeze.

“I cannot stop these sugar cravings.”
Self-love isn’t about deprivation - it’s about balance. Instead of saying “I can’t have sugar,” try
“I choose something that makes me feel good long-term.”
Swap one sweet treat for a healthier version. Drink more water. And remember, cravings often come from emotions, not just hunger - so ask yourself, “What am I really needing right now?” (If you need help with this, consider working with me.. we can figure things out together)

“I live alone and tend to get depressed.”
Being alone doesn’t have to mean feeling lonely, but it’s understandable that solitude can feel heavy. I am a believer in inter-dependence (not codependence or lifelong independence) because nobody is meant to live alone forever.
The key to self-love in these moments is to shift from isolation to intentional alone time.
If you live in a place where warmth and coziness don’t appeal, create an environment that feels refreshing and uplifting instead. Open the windows, let fresh air circulate, and bring in elements of nature - plants, natural light or even a small fountain to create a sense of flow.
Play music that energises you, not just to fill the silence but to set a positive tone for your space.
Build daily rituals that anchor you. Start your morning with something that brings a sense of purpose - maybe a stretch, a quick walk or jog, or just standing outside for a minute to take in your surroundings. Engage with the world, even in small ways. A short conversation with a local vendor, a text to check in on a friend, or even stepping into a café for a change of scenery can make a difference.
Remember, your mind craves stimulation, not just company. Learning something new - whether it’s a language, an instrument, or even a fun fact each day gives your brain a sense of progress and engagement. Take this time to BUILD SOMETHING.
And most importantly, remind yourself that loneliness is a feeling, not a fact. It doesn’t define you, and it won’t last forever.
When you start treating yourself as good company, being alone becomes an opportunity, not a sentence. Self-love thrives in solitude.

Self-love is built in the small, quiet moments - in the choices you make when no one is watching.
Self-love is woven into everything you experience daily ~ the way you greet the morning, the food you nourish yourself with, the boundaries you honour and the energy you protect. Every choice is a vote for the person you’re becoming. At the end of the day, self-love isn’t just about how you feel - it’s about how you live.
The more you choose yourself, the more life rises to meet you.
Sending love,
Savvi
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