I felt this needed the permanence and depth of a blog, not the speed of social media. Some experiences carry too much emotional weight to be reduced to a quick post. Here it is. I have actively repelled men who were committed elsewhere. Not ghosted..not ignored but actively made it uncomfortable for them to continue. It took stepping outside my comfort zone to do it.And I did it anyway. Because imagine ..if every woman who was approached by someone else’s partner for validation, attention,...

The new friendship test is making the rounds again. Did they comment? Did they check in? Did they react? And if they didn’t - they’re fake. They don’t care. They failed you. But here’s what we’re not saying out loud: That test isn’t about friendship. It’s about control. It’s the belief that love must look like your love. That care must arrive in your language. That presence must wear your face. Some people process quietly. Some people are fighting silent battles. Some people love deeply and...

A page from my future book. There's a quiet agreement most of us make with ourselves sometime in our twenties, or thirties, or whenever life gets heavy enough: if I just make the right choices, I can outrun pain. Choose the right partner. Live in the right city. Have children - or don't. Build the right career. Eat well. Exercise. Meditate. Optimise. We treat pain like a slow predator we can stay ahead of with enough preparation, enough cleverness, enough choosing correctly . But here's what...