Have you ever encountered situations where someone tells you that it can’t be done?
That job can’t be done or that project will not work or is too difficult or you will not succeed?
This is usually a reflection of their limitations not yours! Limiting beliefs are almost always hidden in your subconscious mind and you may not be consciously aware of it. These limiting beliefs rule your life.
Our limiting beliefs are a result of a combination of our upbringing, our environment, previous events, past results, knowledge and future vision.
Here is a list of limiting beliefs that I hear my clients say
Limiting beliefs about work
I don't deserve to make money doing what I love.
It is impossible to make money doing what you love.
It's impossible to make money in the arts.
I have to be a starving artist to maintain my integrity.
I am not talented.
I have no special strengths.
I am not good enough.
I am not worthy of that promotion.
I just don't have enough experience.
Who would want to hire me?
I just don't know how to manage big projects.
I cannot be trusted with responsibility. Whenever I manage things, it just turns out awful.
Everyone else gets the good jobs.
No one listens to me.
I will never find the right job.
All bosses are crappy.
My supervisor is never going to listen to me. My opinion isn't important.
Working for this man is soul crushing.
You're not supposed to like what you do.
No one appreciates me.
Everyone expects too much of me.
I got passed over for a promotion again.
It's just not fair.
My coworkers don't like me.
Limiting beliefs about self worth.
I am a failure.
I can't make things happen.
I don't deserve a better life.
Things just don't work out for me.
It's all my parents fault.
People look right through me.
That's just my luck.
Who am I to have everything I have ever wanted.
Limiting beliefs about good health
My body just heals slowly.
Getting sick is unavoidable.
I don't deserve to be healthy everyone else in my family is overweight.
Losing weight is the biggest battle of my life.
I am helpless to heal myself.
It is difficult to lose weight.
Getting older means getting fat and sick.
It's not possible for me to heal,I'm a sufferer.
Limiting beliefs about money and abundance.
Save a penny, earn a penny.
I never win free things.
I will never get my big break.
There is never enough
Everyone else gets all the good stuff.
The government is after my money.
There is never enough to go around.
I have to protect what I've got because there's just isn't enough.
I will never make enough money to support my family.
Money can't come to me easily.
Owning money requires working really hard. Money is the root of all evil.
Money doesn't grow on trees.
You just can't trust others with money.
Taxes are evil.
I just don't know how to manage money.
I am bad with money.
Money is made to be spent.
We /I will never be rich.
Rich people are bad people.
Money turns people rotten.
You can't trust someone who has a lot of money.
Money just doesn't matter much to me,I don't need it.
As soon as I make it, I have to spend it.
Money is always on its way out the door.
The rich get rich and the poor get poorer. Making lots of money requires sacrificing who you are.
I'm not worthy of being happy.
Why does this always happen to me?
This is too much for me.
I just can't do it.
The world is cruel and not nice.
I can't be trusted when things are going well. To earn money, I have to work very hard.
If I had a better education, I could earn more money.
Limiting beliefs about relationships
I will never find love.
I'm not worthy of being loved.
I always get hurt or dumped or betrayed.
All the good ones are taken.
No one wants me.
You just can't trust anybody in a relationship. My relationships are just never work out.
Why don't I know how to make it work.
I need someone in my life at all times.
I'm useless on my own.
I need someone to take care of me.
Putting yourself out there only results in getting hurt.
Why am I so bad at this?
I need to be someone else other than myself for others to like me.
There just isn't somebody out there for me.
I'm not enough on my own.
I need somebody else in my life to make me feel useful.
My family is always trying to keep me down. Doing something besides what my family wants is betraying them.
I can't do what my family doesn't want me to do.
I just have to put up with what I don't like.
I have to do what my parents say or else.
Others are going to hate me if I stand up for myself.
I need someone to complete me.
Love never works out for me.
I hate rejection.
Limiting beliefs can come from lots of different sources. It can take a while to recognise the many different self limiting beliefs floating around in your head.
These are the thoughts that your inner critic tells you at a subconscious level which you may not be aware of.
But you never have to limit yourself to what your inner critic tells you.
The most essential step is to find out what limiting beliefs are ruling one’s entire life thus far.
This can be done through journaling, therapy or meditation etc.
Help from an external source - a friend, therapist or a professional is more effective when trying to figure out what is causing invisible hurdles on your path than trying to do-it-yourself.
One of the most effective ways to ‘reframe’ a limiting belief is to detach yourself from the brain giving you that belief - examine it objectively - question if that belief is true, what is the evidence for or against it - neutralise (what is a more neutral/unbiased version of this thought?)
Example: I recently met a client who gravitated towards eating comfort food (specifically sugary food) whenever there was a challenge in his life.I asked him to focus on how he felt as soon as there was a challenge.
Then I asked him to notice what solution the mind gives in response to that stress.
He said,”I have this urge to eat something warm, sweet & comforting”.
Me: So, did you notice that you started feeling better as soon as you thought about that food? That food was not eaten yet but the very thought of gaining access to it made him feel better already! So it is not the food that made him feel better.. it is the thought of comfort he anticipates through food that shifted him.
Me:So can you think of ways to get that same feeling of comfort & love through other ways? Explore what else can make you feel loved, comforted and safe?
And I got a few answers.. and our session went ahead.
He has not gone back to comfort eating after that because now, he had worked out that there were so many other things he could do instead of eating junk to meet his emotional needs.
Awareness is always the first step.
Once there is awareness, you’ll be ready for transformation.
Feel free to book a call with me to see if I can help you with any of these mentioned above. https://calendly.com/srhybridtherapy/discovery-call?fbclid=IwAR2mfkAqwp9J--xf4XFfpKTaWvheRrNDbX-TzQIbfAkHr1D1myHG2fz8YdE&month=2022-02
There are infinite possibilities once you transform your limiting belief(s)
With love ,peace & gratitude,