Blog-worthy

I felt this needed the permanence and depth of a blog, not the speed of social media.

Some experiences carry too much emotional weight to be reduced to a quick post.

Here it is.

I have actively repelled men who were committed elsewhere.

Not ghosted..not ignored but actively made it uncomfortable for them to continue.

It took stepping outside my comfort zone to do it.And I did it anyway.

Because imagine ..if every woman who was approached by someone else’s partner for validation, attention, admiration - simply refused to participate.

Not dramatically & certainly not with a speech.

Just ~ withdrew the supply.

How different would things look?

But here’s the honest part ~ most women won’t.

Not because they’re bad people.

But because when the man in question has power, status, or something desirable .. the bootlicking begins.

The ego wants proximity to significance.

Even borrowed significance.

This isn’t judgment.

It’s just an observation from someone who chose differently.

Boundaries aren’t only about what you say no to for yourself.

Sometimes they’re about what you refuse to enable for someone else.

That’s a different level.

And not everyone is there yet.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

Truth is: This works for me,I love my privacy.. and the people who still stay .. understand, irrespective of everything.

On a different issue.. I don’t always distance myself because I stopped caring.

Sometimes I distance myself because I noticed a pattern:

people connected to me start attracting unnecessary hostility from those obsessed with controlling, punishing or destabilising me.

The strangest part?

Once the visible connection disappears, the attacks often disappear too.

That tells me everything I need to know.

I'm not even that important - I thought everyone is simply living their lives, having zero time for others ..never understood what the fuss is about.

Savvy